Social Media

Just Because You Can Doesn’t Mean You Should

With the proliferation and popularity of social media, like Twitter, its easy to forget how powerful a single voice can be.  And yet, like a match, a single voice can spark a raging blaze, perhaps without ever really intending to do it.  As individuals, we often think that when we speak we’re only heard by our immediate audience.  Why edit your content when there’s so little impact? But with social media, that’s not really how it works.  And the immediacy of social – the instant ability to publish an issue to a very broad audience – just complicates the dynamic.  We edit less.  The Geek Girls like to remind folks that fact and fiction or good news and bad news travel at the same speeds in the digital realm. And, let’s face it, as humans, we’re probably more likely to complain out loud than we are to share stories about good experiences. Especially when it comes to consumer or brand or service experiences.  It’s true.  We have expectations around service.  When our experience with a brand comes off without a hitch, we probably don’t say much.  Because we expected it.  But if we have a less than easy encounter with a service provider, we are usually more prone to complain.  And we’ll complain to anyone in the immediate vicinity.  Only now, the immediate vicinity includes the web – Twitter and Facebook and wherever your profile may live.  Don’t deny it.  You know I’m right.  You do it.  But here’s a radical idea – I’d like to suggest that you pause for some reasonable amount of time before transcribing and publishing your knee jerk reaction to an unpleasant encounter.  Because giving it a little bit of time just might be the right thing to do.

I subscribe to cable and home internet services through the cable company and, for the most part, other than the occasional grumble about the high price of cable television, I rarely have a complaint about Comcast.  You may or may not be aware that recently Comcast decided to go entirely digital, which requires that all televisions without set-top control boxes get an additional adapter to receive the all-digital signal.  Comcast informed subscribers via snail mail with a letter that provided instructions around how to order the adapters.  We were given two options – logging into a website and providing a unique identifier and ordering the adapters, or calling a customer service line and speaking to a representative.  Being someone who practically lives online the web option was my obvious choice.  I headed straight for the website, filled out the required fields and provided my ID number, only to be met with an error message stating that the site was unable to process my request at that time.  I tried again, same result.  One last time, still an error message.  My initial reaction was one of frustration.  Don’t send letters out with website information that does not work!  I considered, for a split second, tweeting my frustration.  I even pulled up Tweetdeck for that very reason.  Then I had a moment of calm and decided to just pick up the phone and call Comcast for my adapters. The next day I did exactly that, and you know what happened?  I talked to a delightful human who was beyond helpful and friendly.  My customer service experience with Comcast was, ultimately, perfect.  I got all the information I needed.  The rep was friendly, warm, available, and efficient.  She made it so easy.  I got my adapters by mail just four short days later.  Done. 

It would have been so easy for me to tweet my bitterness.  To be honest, I’m not sure what stopped me.  But now, in retrospect, I’m glad I didn’t do it.  Because I realized something as a result of that series of seemingly meaningless events.  I realized that I have some responsibility in all of my brand and service interactions.  Because behind every website and call center and brand promise are people.  We can automate every single transaction.  But it doesn’t take away from the need for humanity in our relationships with these brands. Don’t get me wrong.  I think it’s perfectly ok to expect good and reliable products and services from the brand in whom we place our trust.  But there’s a difference between expecting quality and feeling entitled to instant gratification.  The web has sort of muddied these waters and as more and more of us recognize the power that the individual has in the world of consumer relationships, its hard not to have really high, even entitled, expectations. 

I think many of us have by now heard the story of Famous Mom Blogger Heather Armstrong’s dealings with Maytag.  In her case it seems clear that she attempted to resolve the situation via traditional channels before she resorted to inciting the masses following her on Twitter to take up her cause.  But it does illustrate just how powerful these channels can be.  No, not all of us are Dooce.  But by tapping into the power of social media we all have access to much broader and much more distributed networks of people.  The potential for reputation damage goes far beyond your immediate gripe over the fence in the backyard. 

Those of us in the service business are generally just trying to do good and honest work.  The problem with being human is, sometimes you just fall down.  As consumers of goods and services AND social media I’d like to see us all practice a little humanity and recognize our own responsibility in all of our relationships.  In my case, I just picked up the phone.  It was really that simple.  A little patience and effort on my part was rewarded with exactly what I should have expected — excellent service.

Social Media Reading List: 4 Essential Titles

Geeky reader Myrna in Minneapolis wrote in to ask, “Do you have any recommendations on the latest books on social media/networking?”

There are a lot of books out there on the business applications of social media, but here are a few of my favorites (in the order I think you should read them):

The Cluetrain Manifesto

The Cluetrain Manifesto is such an old standard that it’s almost a cliche to recommend it, but I’m going to anyway. Mainly because, while many people will name-check this book to prove their cred — not many have actually read it. You don’t even have to buy it (though I think it’s worth the money if you like old-fashioned books like I do); you can read the whole thing online for free.

Check this quote from the book’s homepage, “A powerful global conversation has begun. Through the Internet, people are discovering and inventing new ways to share relevant knowledge with blinding speed. As a direct result, markets are getting smarter—and getting smarter faster than most companies.”

Those words were written in 1999. Those of us who were building sites back then thought of the web as being social, but no one had invented the words “social media” yet. (Everyone was too busy hyping and over-valuing e-commerce.) Thankfully, though, the dot-bomb era left us with miles of fiber to connect us. And now the tools, hardware and connection speeds have evolved to the point where a huge number of us are connecting with each other and companies are being forced to pay attention. What previously was the realm of dorks is now home to millions, and what these guys were saying then is now truer than ever.

They laid the groundwork for today’s thinking with phrases like “markets are conversations” and “hyperlinks subvert hierarchy.” If you think you have any groundbreaking ideas about social media, these guys probably already thought it up first. Read it and weep.

(Seriously, read even just the first page of cluetrain.com and you’ll probably fall out of your chair.)

Here Comes Everybody

Here Comes Everybody: The Power of Organizing Without Organizations is my favorite social media book because Clay Shirky covers, in a fast and entertaining read, the cultural and personal changes that are happening without worrying about the tactics of how to apply it for business (which is exactly the right place to start). This book is essential for shifting into what I call the “social media mindset.” There are still a large number of people who mistake social media as being about broadcasting everything we’re doing. Oversharing. Lifestreaming. But when you think about social networks as utilities that connect people, you begin to see that it’s about the human desire to connect and to be recognized and appreciated. It’s about making what was invisible, visible.

Every wiki and community site has a resident expert. That person has always existed, but now they are visible. That’s powerful. I can now influence what someone I don’t know may buy on Amazon because I shared my experience and opinion. Every day, people I don’t know influence what I buy on Amazon, iTunes, and countless other sites with their opinions.

We’ve always talked to our friends and acquaintances about companies and products and events, but now those conversations are visible. It gives us, as consumers and citizens, a new kind of power to communicate and organize. It gives companies the ability to listen and, if they’re smart, to respond. It gives both sides the ability to collaborate to create better products and services.

Importantly, this book will also help you understand a critical element to maintaining social media sanity. The idea that “they’re not talking to you.” In a nutshell, Shirky makes the point that just because all of this content is visible, doesn’t mean that it is directed at us. As humans, this is difficult to adjust to because we are accustomed to receiving messages that are meant for us: mail is addressed to us, TV and print ads are targeted to people like us. Now we’re bombarded with, or can stumble across, all kinds of messages that are not meant for us.

Think about any movie or book where the main character gains the ability to listen to people’s thoughts. There is first euphoria at thie ability to hear all this information, directly followed by borderline insanity at an inablity to silence all the “voices,” and usually culminates with some nice middle ground where the character figures out how to not listen to everyone all the time but rather to pick and choose when and what to listen to to get the most benefit. Most of us (and most companies) are currently in the insanity portion of this cycle. Shirky’s book will help move you toward your happy place.

Groundswell

Groundswell: Winning in a World Transformed by Social Technologies is the reigning standard “social media for business” book, and for good reason. While best-suited for large companies with bigger budgets, companies of any size can benefit from the general knowledge. Lots of good content in here, including the brilliant social technographics profiles.

Too often, people look at social media as an amorphous blob; technographics profiles help one understand how one’s audiences may be likely to interact socially (are they more likely to read a blog? rate products? join a network?). Understanding how your audiences want to participate will help you focus on appropriate social channels and maximize participation (and return on investment).

Friends with Benefits

Friends with Benefits: A Social Media Marketing Handbook is a new, but great-so-far (I’m not quite done with it!), guide to the world of social media and how to get started. Very tactical and hands-on (which is why I think it’s good to read Here Comes Everybody first, so you really have a grasp of the “So what?” before diving into the “How can I do it?”).

Fantastic for smaller companies who want a more DIY approach (where Groundswell will suggest large software providers or agencies, Darren Barefoot and Julie Szabo will tell you how to do it yourself), it’s well-written and engaging. It’s clear that the authors have been active participants in the web since long before the social media buzzfest began.

It’s a handbook in the truest sense of the word. But, while a new social media handbook or how-to guide seems to be printed every week, none equals this one in depth, breadth and clarity. Even for web veterans, the book contains thought-provoking ideas on how to tweak or improve what you’re doing now. My copy is heavily dog-eared with things I need to return to for more thinking, or to share with clients or co-workers.

That’s All, Folks!

There are a ba-jillion other social media books out there, and I’ve read (or at least skimmed through) most of them. With the exception of the four listed above, I think most of them can be skipped. Do you disagree? Can you think of other excellent books I’ve missed? Let me know!

Podcast #7: Social Media & Personal Safety

For our seventh podcast we invited Geek Girls Guide reader Alexis Bell over to talk about some concerns her family members had with her jumping into the world of social media.

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Recap

Alexis (@alexisjbell) sent us an email and said:

“My parents have become very concerned that on my Twitter account I have my picture and my real name. One night I tweeted that I was going to the MIMA holiday party and that concerned them because A) someone could rob me knowing that my house is unoccupied or B) stalk me. I realize their concerns are real and that they are just worried about me but I haven’t figured out how to ease their minds yet.

So I guess my question has to do with personal safety and security while posting information about what you are doing and where you are going. With Facebook I know who everyone is ‘In Real Life’, but with Twitter I don’t yet know any of these people. Some I’m hoping to know/meet in the future with regards to social media and web design. I know that approving everyone that follows you is an option but I don’t see that as a solution if I’m trying to get into social media.”

We talked about:

  • Generational differences between what we are used to sharing, and having public
  • The insidious danger of danger – a brilliant post by Tara Hunt (@missrogue)
  • Sharing information sensibly; be aware of what you’re sharing in any network you’re participating in.
  • Ways to demonstrate why it’s important for a modern professional to be creating content about themselves that is indexed by search engines.

The bottom line in this whole conversation is that it would be a mistake to miss out on the personal and professional opportunities to connect with people in social channels out of fear. Be smart, but don’t be afraid.

Join in the Discussion

What do you think? Are you avoiding social media because you’re concerned about safety or do you brazenly share all?

Remembering The Golden Rule

Everyone learns the Golden Rule at some point in their childhood.  You know it – treat others the way you’d want to be treated.  Or, simply put, treat people with consideration.  It’s one of those basic human values that is shared by Christians, Buddhists, Muslims and Humanists.  The Golden Rule is one of ethics and humanity, more than anything else.  We need to choose, every day, to be decent to one another.  And, surprisingly, it’s not always so easy to do.  Being human is just hard.  These days, with business and information moving at the speed of sound, and everyone trying to keep up with the Joneses or bubble up or be remarkable or be a ‘thought leader’ humanity takes even more of a back seat. Most of the time, that’s really not the intent. Social Media can be a channel for self promotion.  And when we’re too self-focused we lose site of each other and, by extension, we lose sight of that Golden Rule. 

Over the holiday my house was bustling with family and festivities.  My sister (who has no idea I’m using her for this post and hopefully she won’t care) stayed with us to celebrate Christmas.  We were busy – a big family gathering on Christmas Eve.  Friends in town and staying over with us for Christmas morning.  My three-year-old was enjoying the first Christmas where he really embraced the magic of Santa Claus.  The last thing I was thinking about was what sorts of images of me might end up on the Internet.  I was wrapping up work, and cleaning my house, and preparing hor d’oeuvres and doing last minute shopping and, you name it – it was on my list.  By the time Christmas morning rolled around I was breathing a sigh of relief at the prospect of a nap.  Now, I don’t know about you, but I do not sleep in what one would refer to as high fashion.  In fact, I’ll admit it, my night-time wardrobe has been sorely neglected over the years and most every morning, when I come plodding out of my bedroom sporting a brilliant case of bedhead and some misguided combination of sweatpants and a t-shirt, I look positively homeless.  Christmas morning was no exception.  I played spectator to my son and the Christmas motherlode.  I completely missed the fact that I was a passive participant in a series of photographs capturing his excitement.  There I was looking like a bloated, homeless whale – laying on the couch or curled up on the floor or all contorted for some crazy task with ‘some assembly required’.  My sister, whom I adore, was capturing every precious moment of my baby’s magical morning.  Unfortunately, my butt was the backdrop for a good number of those moments and I had no idea.  No idea, that is, until my butt showed up on Facebook. 

Facebook, the basement-home-movies-and-instantaneous-scrapbook all rolled into one.  Instead of inviting your friends over to bore them with your latest adventure as you project your vacation slides on your paneled rec-room wall, just share your family fun on Facebook and they can comment and ‘Like’ your life from anywhere, right this instant, and forever.  Somewhere between brunch and my long winter’s nap on Christmas Day I logged into Facebook to kill some time and was immediately notified that my sister had posted some pictures.  My heart raced as I quickly reviewed her recently uploaded collection.  Granted, I wasn’t the focal point of any of those photos.  But, it could not be denied, that there I was, looking about as comfortable and unkempt as a person ever should, right smack dap in the middle of my sister’s ‘wall’.  I thought very seriously about the correct response to this issue.  On the one hand, they were not my pictures and my sister can take and post whatever she wants on her Facebook page.  But on the other hand, about 25 of her friends are my ‘friends’ and I wasn’t entirely comfortable with anyone, save my immediate family, seeing me in such a state.  It’s an interesting dilemma when you think about it.  Social Media only works when the intent and the content is authentic.  One could argue that my desire to remove pictures of myself looking terrifying is not exactly authentic.  But I also need to feel safe in my own house.  I need to know I can roam around in my underwear and not have to worry about it showing up on the world wide web by nightfall.  Who is deciding how these things work?  We are.  And, quite honestly, there’s nothing all that digital or ‘new’ about it.  When thinking about how best to be ‘social’ in the Social Media sphere, remember the Golden Rule.  Treat others the way you would like to be treated.  Show them some consideration. 

Now, I’m not suggesting my sis had any ill intentions in posting those photos.  I think she simply wanted to share the images of her sweet nephew’s holiday excitement.  But without my consent, or prior review, she was sharing much more than that.  You see the moral dilemma?  What right did I have to ask her to edit what she wanted to share with her network?  The problem was, once the content was tagged, it was shareable outside of her network.  And I have no idea what her privacy settings look like.  Bottom line – I was not comfortable with it.  It wasn’t about oversharing – it was about my level of comfort with what was being shared.  The Geek Girls have said time and time again, behind every picture is the human that took it and posted it.  If you don’t like the picture talk to the human.  I mean, come on.  In this new era of immediacy in communication – we have to all commit to being reasonable when publishing content to what is really a GLOBAL network.  But I say we should go a step further and, as creators of content, we need to apply the Golden Rule.  We need to be sensitive to and considerate of others first.  Ask before you post if there is anything that could be even slightly compromising.  I don’t think that asking for a little kindness is really asking for all that much.  In fact, that is exactly what I asked of my sister — I asked her to be kind to me in re-reviewing those pictures.  In the end, she was more than kind and for that I am grateful.

Go ahead – post your pictures, share your videos – put it all out there.  But before you hit ‘submit’ – remember the moral of this story – remember the Golden Rule.  Be kind to each other.

Podcast #4: MPR Technology Follow Up

I had the pleasure of talking to Kerri Miller on the Midmorning show on MPR this morning.  (You can listen to the show here.) Her guest was Robert Stephens and I was a call-in guest for a short part of the hour.  It is so hard to even try to touch technology in an hour’s worth of time.  It’s even harder to speak to the cultural impact of technology in short bytes.  We try to do all of that here on the Geek Girl’s Guide.  But we try to do it in a way that encourages very broad participation.  We want to open this up to audiences that may not normally be included in a conversation about technology.  Of course when I finished the interview my head was spinning.  The only logical thing to do was to keep talking to Meghan about the ideas we’d only touched on in the on-air chat.  Here’s the resulting podcast.  Enjoy!

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A Heartwarming Tale of Internal Organs and Twitter by Sharyn Morrow

Today is the big day. A kidney transplant is happening in the Twin Cities this morning, thanks to twitter. Minneapolis musician/artist Chris Strouth had known about his illness for some time. In medical terminology it’s a mouthful. Though technically called IgA Nephropathy Strouth has dubbed his sickness “Harold.” It is a much less menacing name, but after one particularly disheartening visit to the Mayo Clinic Strouth discovered Harold had turned life-threatening. His first thought? To tweet what was happening. His message to his twitter account was brief, along the lines of “sh!t, I need a kidney.” He later followed up with a Facebook post. Before long over a dozen friends and contacts volunteered to be tested, to see if their tissue would match. Only one was a perfect match. The donor is a man who apparently likes squirrels, Strouth’s old acquaintance Scott Pakudaitis, whose latest status made me smile:

“At the hospital. Goodbye kidney hellooo pantslessness!”

Pakudaitis named his healthy kidney “William the Conqueror” and posted about it doing battle with Harold. I’ve been following these fine gentlemen on twitter and watching events unfold has been uplifting, to say the least. I wish them both speedy recoveries after today’s surgeries. And to anyone who doubts the power of social networking, not only can it be life changing, it can be life saving.


Sharyn Morrow is an end-user support specialist at Clockwork Active Media Systems with a long history of helping people get the most out of the web, and web tools, with a minimum amount of frustration.

Follow her on Twitter: massdistraction


[cross posted on the Clockwork blog]

Giving Thanks In National Adoption Month

Thanksgiving sends us all through the same exercise – we think about those things for which we are most thankful.  Generally, the first thing that comes to mind is one’s family.  Families are a great gift and the people that make home feel like home.  November is also National Adoption Month so it seems only logical that I should share with you my story – the one in which I was lucky enough to create what is now my family with more than a little help from technology and early social media.  Just maybe what I share here will be of some help or comfort to someone who may stumble upon this post and find in it a little nugget of hope when they need it most.

Adoption is a very personal decision.  I think those people on the outside of it make assumptions about why people decide to adopt.  But those assumptions are generally a pretty narrow view of reality.  In truth, some people just know that adoption is the path for them.  I have always been one of those people.  I always knew I’d be a parent, but I never felt any sort of compelling urge to give birth.  Adoption is one of those subjects that exists in the periphery of cultural consciousness until you decide that you want to pursue it.  Once you are serious about becoming a parent via adoption, a whole subculture starts to reveal itself to you.  But not without a pretty significant amount of investigation.   Thankfully, when I began my journey, I was already very familiar with the internet.  Unfortunately, the adoption industry had not yet caught up to technology and was slow to adopt new channels of communication.  At the time I started I was able to research adoption agencies through newsgroups.  (Remember those?  Newsgroups?) I’d hear about one, and then I’d search various adoption newsgroups for people with experience with the agency.  Then I’d make contact with those people and, if it made sense, follow up with contact with the agency itself.  Let’s put this in context, I started this process over 9 years ago and it took me six years to find my son.   The web was still a less than effective way to really find and connect with resources in a way that really moved the process forward.  But for me it was a little different.  I was a blogger.

When we talk about Social Media, the Geek Girls try to point out the value of blogs and bloggers as community builders and mechanisms for two-way dialogue.  In a world where Facebook is the social tool dujour, and Twitter is Facebook’s cooler, thinner younger sibling, blogs tend to get dismissed as less than social and certainly not as powerful for creating connections.  But my story suggests otherwise.  My blog was where I chronicled not so much the boring adoption journey itself, but my emotional response to a process that really isn’t very forgiving of emotion.  See adoption is a lot about preparation, anticipation, anxiety, hope, disappointment, grief and, if everything finally comes together, ultimately its about celebration.  Being embroiled in the adoption process (read: bureaucracy) for six years meant quite a few blog posts about this crazy range of emotions.  I don’t need to recap all of it here, but I will tell you that we started pursuing international adoption, which has it’s own set of complications associated with it.  We accepted and lost two referrals (a referral is a child in adoption speak) about 18 months apart (this was after waiting over a year for the first referral).  Those children just disappeared into the ether that is that process. With the international thing no one ever tells you where the referrals go — they are just gone.  We switched agencies three times.  We transitioned from international to domestic in shifting from one agency to the next.  Each comes with its own set of fears.  International is expensive and the process can be long and disappointing, depending on the country.  But with domestic adoption there is the fear of the first mom changing her mind or the first dad not really being on board.  Nothing worthwhile is ever easy though, right?  As I moved along this path I talked about it on my personal blog.  And the craziest thing started to happen.  I started to meet people who were rooting for me, or who were also embroiled in the adoption conundrum, or people that had been victorious and were wise, experienced parents of adopted children.  A real dialogue and a real community of supportive humans started to emerge and they stayed with me through the entire ordeal.

I blogged when I was confused by paperwork.  I blogged when we got our first referral.  I blogged when I lost sleep and when that referral drifted away, when the invitation to travel to another country never came and when our adoption agency dealt with some shady issues.  I blogged over my frustration with the wait and the silence and with people who popped out babies one after the other.  I wasn’t really doing it for anyone else.  I didn’t expect anyone would care or be moved to return to my site or participate in the discussion.  I just needed to say what I had to say and my blog was that outlet.  But people were reading and they did care and they were participating.  It was single people, married people, straight and gay, moms and dads, grandparents. People who wanted kids.  People who didn’t.  Families immersed in the adoption quagmire.  I was humbled and grateful for every blog comment, every email, every new friend or acquaintance.  They kept me hopeful on those days when I had no other reason to be.  And six years into it, when I was ready to give up hope, I wrote a blog post in response to a woman who, when suffering from mental illness, threw her twin babies into the Mississippi river.  I wrote her a letter, actually.  Her and anyone like her that was struggling.  It wasn’t really for her or them.  It was for me.  It was my inner dialogue coming out and I published it for the world.  I begged her and anyone like her to please please consider me.  Not ‘me’ per se.  But us – all of us in that place – that limbo between wanting a child and having a child.  That place that is a cloud of confusion and desperation and hopefulness.  That letter, that personal plea, that prayer moved my little community into a conversation I can’t really describe.  Suddenly I was receiving emails with suggestions for immediate action that I should take.  People who’d had luck with one angle or another were sharing their secrets and I was determining which to pursue. 

I moved again into the breach with renewed energy and a feeling that this would be my last great effort at reaching out and trying to find my family.  One suggestion was an aggregated list managed by a woman who collected crisis situations from all over the country.  So instead of aligning with an agency, I would be choosing to pursue individual situations.  I don’t want to get into the mechanics of the adoption process, that’s not what this post is about.  But, suffice it to say, these people in my online community altered my perception of what was possible and when I decided to think absolutely outside of my comfort zone and pursue these various options, things started to happen.  I followed up on a couple of crisis situations, which led me to a conversation with an adoption coordinator who remembered me months later when a woman came to them looking for a family just like ours.  We were interviewed by the first mom and her family, we ultimately met them and grew to care very deeply for them.  In July of 2006 my son was born and we took him home 48 hours later.  When I am asked if the wait was worth it I always answer in the affirmative.  Because now that I know him, I know why we had to wait.  It was for him.  He is exactly who we were supposed to meet.  He is our family. 

Why is this a Geek Girls post?  Why have I decided to share this today?  Because with all of this talk of social media and the miracle that it is for business (I use the word ‘miracle’ facetiously) and personal branding, at the end of the day these are human interactions.  It is our humanity that moves the needle forward – a little at a time.  With all of our tweets and status updates, pictures and connections, I want us to recognize that ‘transparency’ is just a buzz word.  What we really want is honesty and authenticity and humanity and, even a little vulnerability.  We are not connecting because we are fabulous.  We are connecting because we are real.  We are flawed.  We NEED each other.  We learn and grow from and support each other.  We challenge each other.  The tools have changed.  There is more possibility for connection.  The conversations might be bigger.  But we are still perfectly imperfect humans. 

On this Thanksgiving I am thankful for my family.  My bright shining light – my boy.  His first mom and dad and the gift they gave us.  And all of the lovely, far-away people on the internet who never let me lose hope, who gave me energy and ideas, and ultimately (whether they know it or not) led me to my son.  Happy Thanksgiving.

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*Note:  this post is not meant to be representative of the adoption process in any way.  It merely reflects my experience with it.  Every experience is different.  Adoption is a worthy, worthwhile pursuit and I wouldn’t change a thing about the path that lead me to my son. 

Additional Resources

National Adoption Day

Adopting.org

Adoption.com

What the Hashtag?

One of the hardest things to explain to people who are unfamiliar with Twitter is hashtags. Many things about Twitter are not immediately self-evident, and hashtags are one of them.

What Are Hashtags?

The simplest way to explain hashtags is that they are a way to categorize a particular tweet.

The name hashtag combines the notion of tagging (using a word or phrase to categorize something) with the hash symbol (#). (I don’t know about you, but I always call that symbol a pound sign. I’m thinkng of starting a campaign to rename hashtags to poundtags. Anybody with me?)

If you are reading a tweet with a hashtag, the hashtag will be a link. Clicking that link will take you to the search page for that hashtag.

Who creates them?

Anyone can create a hashtag. It’s anarchy! The company I work for uses the hashtag #clockwork whenever we tweet about work, but other people in the world also sometimes use that hashtag to tweet about a Jiu Jitsu studio in NYC, or the movie A Clockwork Orange. So, even if you start using a hashtag someone else may start using it, too. (Or, they may already be using it. The only way to find out is to search for the hashtag and see if it’s already in use.)

How do you find them?

Sometimes, events that you attend will print the hashtag in the brochure. Sometimes, someone will create a hashtag that gets so popular it becomes a “trending topic” on Twitter. Sometimes, you might just see a hashtag in a friend’s tweets.

What does each hashtag mean?

One of my co-workers just sent me this amazingly cool site, http://wthashtag.com, which crowdsources what hashtags mean. This is fantastic because, since anyone can create a hashtag, a central directory of what each hashtag means has never existed. And because anyone can create one at any time, this approach of asking the public what they each mean is the only way it can be realistically managed.

If you see a hashtag and wonder what it’s for, this site can help you find out. If you start a new hashtag, you can add more information about it here for other people to discover.

How can you use them?

This is where it gets really interesting. Hashtags can be used in a bunch of interesting ways:

Industry Chats: People in the same industry, who are interested in a group conversation, sometimes start up a hashtag and have people meet at a certain date and time to talk about something. Kind of a like a big chatroom, but using Twitter instead of instant messenger. Some examples include #journchat (a PR discussion group on Monday nights), #blogchat (a blogging discussion group on Sunday nights) and #behindthefirewall (a group that discusses how social media is being used inside of corporations).

Events: I’ll use the recent MIMA Summit as an example: everyone who was tweeting about that event used the hashtag #mimasummit. If I want to see tweets that are only related to the MIMA Summit, I can use search.twitter.com and follow all tweets that contain that hashtag.

What’s interesting about hashtags for events is that they can be used both for those at the event, and for those that couldn’t attend. For those at the event, hashtagged tweets can be a way to keep up with breaking news at the event (“Session 1 is canceled” or “We know wi-fi is slow, we’re working on it now.”). For those not attending, it can be a way to listen in on what’s happening and participate from afar. At some events, you can submit questions to the speaker via Twitter and a person acting as a “Twitterhost” will pass the questions along.

Sometimes, as is the case with #mimasummit, people use the hashtags for days and weeks after the event is over to share follow-up articles, blog posts, and videos.

Companies/Organizations: I also mentioned the #clockwork hashtag earlier. Using Twitter’s API (application-programming interface) we created a custom search that appears on our homepage (the custom search allows us to filter out those other, non-related tweets that also happen to use our hashtag).

Fans and practitioners of David Allen’s Getting Things Done methodology use #gtd for any of their tweets that relate to that topic.

To Make a Statement: The other day, I got irritated with a conversation that was happening where working and at-home moms were being pitted against each other. I decided to start an #endmommywars hashtag, for no reason other than to give people a spot to voice their support for each other. This happens all the time with causes big and small.

For Fun/Entertainment: On Friday, someone started a hashtag meme #oneletteroffmovies. People were tweeting funny movie titles that were just one letter off. Like my contribution, My Big Fat Geek Wedding. Totally pointless, but entertaining. My husband and I were reading the submissions together on Friday night, laughing and trying to think of our own.

There are also hashtags for #MusicMonday (to share music suggestions), #FollowFriday and #Women2Follow (where you can suggest that other people follow someone whom you find interesting).

To Be Clever: The final way that people use hashtags is to add a funny, sarcastic sidebar comment to their tweet. As in, “I just changed my 1,000th diaper. #mylifeisglamorous”.

Spammers: It just wouldn’t be the Internet if spammers didn’t figure out how to ruin everyone’s good time. Depending on the popularity of the topic you’re following, you’ll often see unrelated tweets that contain the hashtag (and often a few others). That’s just spammers trying to get attention from unsuspecting Twitterers by dropping trending topics and hashtags into their spam tweets. Sad, but true.

So now you know. As you are tweeting, hashtags allow you to categorize those tweets. As a person who is reading tweets, hashtags provide a way to filter the overwhelming universe of tweets into a more manageable set of only those you are interested in at that moment. Looking through tweets related to a given hashtag can also be a great way to find interesting new people to follow on Twitter.

Feel like getting your feet wet with hashtags? Add #geekgirlsguide to your tweet, and we’ll see it. (Or just try #myfirsthashtag — it won’t hurt anyone!)

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Get A Life – Be A Facebook Fan

Recently a Facebook friend of mine noted in his status message that JCPenney’s fan page had over 43,000 fans.  He received several comments on the post, one of which suggested that this number was proof that people on Facebook ‘have no life’.  That comment got me thinking about why, in fact, it was important for JCPenney to establish this fan page (which, by the way, currently boasts more than 487,000 fans) and why those people that identify as fans actually do have lives — relatively thoughtful lives, in fact.  It should be acknowledged that I am *not* a documented Facebook fan of JCPenney’s.  I have no real attachment to the retail chain or the brand and I don’t do any work for them.  But it is worth examining what value JCPenney could see from a Facebook fan page, and why Facebook members would want to make their brand interest and loyalty official. 

Its funny how people that are *on* Facebook could actually call out other members of Facebook for having ‘no life.’  We all have our own reasons for being there, and when we joined the network, I doubt we expected that one of those reasons would be to declare our loyalty or interest in one, or many, brands.  But the fact of the matter is – brands are recognizing the importance of ‘going where the people are’.   And if current stats are correct – the population of Facebook makes it the 4th largest country on the globe.  You can’t deny the sheer penetration of Facebook as a brand and a service.  The opportunity to get in front of millions of users in short order surpasses that of any other medium.  

Let’s face it, the past couple of years have been rough on people all over the world.  The global economy has taken a dramatic nosedive and people don’t know which end is up or when they can expect things to turn around.  Consumers need more than their base desires to influence purchases.  They need a *reason* to buy.  And they need a reason to choose one retailer over another.  Only 14% of people actually believe advertising (according to Marketing To The Social Web by Larry Weber).  The rest of the population needs something else.  They need to trust products and brands.  They need endorsements from real people, trusted friends and colleagues.  They need relationships with brands.  We don’t spend money as easily as we did a few years ago.  We need reasons to part with our hard earned cash.  Connecting with a brand on Facebook gives us the opportunity to have these kinds of relationships. 

Connecting with brands in the social space is a two-way street.  As a consumer, I enjoy that sense of exclusivity.  I am part of this test audience to run ads by, or to extend special, Facebook-only offers to.  Perhaps I am informed of sales and limited product roll-outs early.  Or maybe I just see next season’s back-to-school line before the general public.  I have an opportunity to plan ahead for shopping, perhaps set aside cash instead of tapping into credit.  Whatever the case, because I have this relationship with a brand, in this case, JCPenney, I am a more active consumer, versus passive — someone waiting until I need something and then heading to the closest retailer to get it, or the retailer that dominates the market in which I reside.  Because my experience with that brand is likely to be integrated into my experience with Facebook, I can participate in brand conversations, even passively, several times a day.  JCPenney has nearly a half million fans currently.  That leaves the potential for engagement with hundreds of thousands of consumers at least once every single day.And when you consider that a fan page is free — the investment is really around resources.  The conversations themselves are already happening.  Facebook is just another channel for consumer conversations.  The primary difference being these conversations have the potential to be two way.  And, and this really critical, consumers can contribute to the public conversation.  The brand is on the hook to be exactly who they say they are.  Because if they aren’t truly authentic, consumers will call them out in this very public space.

The brand benefits too.  They have a captive audience.  They can monitor conversations they start.  There’s viral potential around the content they put out.  They are actively invited into the social experience of their constituency.  They have opportunities to change audience perceptions around the brand.  For instance – in the case of JCPenney, the conversation that ensued as a result of this Facebook commentary on the fan page was around private label blue jeans brands.  Like Sears had Toughskins.  It was news to me, but apparently JC Penney had a private label brand of their own.  The comment centered around this group of friends and their history of experiences with the brand.  But the brand has evolved.  Those private label brands are no longer synonymous with low quality and JCPenney having a presence on Facebook gives them an opportunity to revise audience impressions of the brand and correlating products.  This isn’t your mother’s JCPenney.  This retail chain is all grown up.  They are in tune with consumer expectations around trends, quality and price.  And through their presence on Facebook they have opportunity to tell that story day after day.

This is really just the tip of the iceberg in terms of addressing the value to the consumer and the value to the brand.  Once the conversation starts it is perpetuated by all of the players.  But we aren’t so far away from brands any more that they aren’t listening to us, and we aren’t influencing how they evolve.  One could actually argue that those people that signed on as Facebook fans of JCPenney early in this game really did have lives.  In fact, they probably lead relatively thoughtful lives and hopefully are using these social connections to extend that thoughtfulness to their buying behavior.

The One In Which I Rant About The Misuse Of Social Media By Companies And Executives

Recently the Geek Girls talked to a group of emerging women leaders about the merits of social media in promoting both personal and professional brands.  It was a great session and afterwards we found ourselves immersed in lengthy discussion about trying to separate the personal from the professional (in short — get over it).  In attendance at the event was a group of interns from a very large financial services firm.  One of them approached me with a question that she asked in a very hushed tone. “Can I remove a picture of myself, from Facebook, if it is someone else’s picture?”  She looked slightly nervous as she waited for me to answer.  And when I answered in the negative she looked crestfallen.  “You can remove the tag that identifies you,” I replied.  “But you are stuck with the picture unless you contact the person who put it there and ask them to take it down.  Anyone with any amount of sensitivity has got to respect that kind of request.”  She seemed satisfied with my answer and I moved on to another question.  But a few moments later I turned to her and asked “Is it an embarrassing college party kind of picture?”  She nodded, “Yes.”

A few days later the twittersphere enjoyed a minor buzz around the news that a Montana town’s hiring procedures now included requiring job candidates to hand over their log-in information for their Facebook accounts so that their potential employer could see who they really were.  I, like everyone else with any sense, was appalled by the nerve of these people.  We all wondered if this was legal.  The press didn’t serve them very well and shortly thereafter they backed away from this policy.

When we’re out talking about social media the most common questions we field include those around deleting questionable or personally damaging content, specifically pictures, from Facebook.  Oftentimes the questions come from young people.  However, more often than you think, established professionals harbor similar concerns.  The web and social networks make being “social” a whole new ballgame.  Of course, my first words of advice are around the terms of use and terms of service for Facebook.  We say this all the time, we’ve mentioned it on the blog, but its worth noting as often as possible: when you put things on the web, whether you like it or not, they don’t really entirely belong to you any more.  When you share assets like pictures on a social network you’ve essentially given away the rights or ownership of those images.  That is something you need to accept and you should operate in accordance with that awareness. Additionally, if you are someone who enjoys recording social events and interactions through words and pictures remember to be sensitive to your subjects, and, if the subject is you, be smart about what you allow to be photographed.

illustration by Rett Martin (@rett)

As Meghan and I walked away from that event that breezy Wednesday evening, I couldn’t help but express my empathy for the young woman who’d expressed concern around the picture her friend had posted of her. But beyond that, I have real concern for human resource professionals and leadership inside of organizations that would condone invading someone’s privacy in a way where they are intending to seek out these sorts of incriminating images.  I take issue with leaders who conveniently lack any recall around their own questionable choices or reckless behavior.  Because, let’s face it, we’ve all been there.  And I think that is my biggest issue.  Social media gives us access to a wealth of personal and professional information the likes of which we have never seen before.  Whole educational profiles, resumes, work histories, testimonials, personal addresses, family pictures, life histories, and, yes, transgressions, are all documented and available on the web.  For the most part, its a very cool thing.  We can record and validate experiences and share them with our communities in a way that enriches our connections.  But we can also abuse it.  And I think the worst abuse happens when we believe we have a right to scour through that kind of information to establish a profile of questionable behavior.  After all, context is key.  The context in which certain situations occur color the lense that records them. 

It’s more than that though.  Some of the greatest lessons of my life and career have come from my mistakes or missteps.  I have news for you, people: I went to college.  I stood around a keg.  I drank too much beer, or maybe I wore pants on my head.  I don’t remember.  But the important thing is — I matured beyond that.  I had those experiences, and I moved on.  I grew up.  And I can honestly say I am probably a more well rounded person because I allowed myself to partake in the ridiculous or, even (gasp) the forbidden.  It hasn’t happened yet where a compromising picture of me has shown up on Facebook (unless you count the one where I look like I’m in drag in a dinner theatre show which is scary for sure). But it might.  When it does I will likely ask the person posting it to remove it.  Or maybe I won’t, just to prove a point.  But to act like college is all academics, or that victories in life are the only moments along the path worth recording, is nuts.  In the long run, we might be forcing people to be even more deceptive about who they are.  Because we all know resumes aren’t always non-fiction.  We’ve all been there.  We’ve all made mistakes.  We’ve all reframed a professional story so it doesn’t reflect poorly on us.  We’ve all been in the wrong place at the wrong time.  To deny any of that would be dishonest.  Hopefully we’ve all learned from those experiences and they contributed to the professionals we are today.  Hopefully we’ve gained some perspective and we can demonstrate some compassion and, by extension, respect the social privacy of job candidates or colleagues or acquaintances. 

Social media is here to enrich our lives. Not make us fearful about living them.  Let’s not abuse our positions by insisting on access to information we have no right to in the first place.  What you condone now, in terms of policy, could always come back to bite you in the end. Put that in your pipe and smoke it (just be sure no one is standing nearby with a camera when you do).